Inspiration porn revisited

In the past week I have encountered two incidents of the most insidious kind of inspiration porn that I have seen for a long time.

The first one is your typical picture where somebody with a disability is in a situation that is so perfectly normal that to me it is mundane. But apparently it becomes something ‘special’ to a bunch of people because one of the people in it is disabled. The other incident is a family who is exploited by the sort of idiots who create this particular nasty kind of trash by having a family image stolen from their blog.
Yes, they put the photo out there on the internet but nobody asked them if they felt like being exploited before their photo was stolen and exploited in the worst possible kind of way.

So the first story is an image I found on facebook. You can see it here. A friend of mine posted it with the comment: “Should melt even the hardest of hearts…” I guess I don’t just have something harder than the hardest of hearts; apparently my heart is also cold, cynical, scornful and contemptuous if we stay with that sort of vernacular. So why am I such a cold hearted bastard?

Well, first of all. What is it about the picture that makes it so special that it deserves a go-around in the social media carrousel? As far as I know men propose to women on a daily basis, most of them get down on their knee to do it and even more of them do it in a far more romantic place than this somewhat nondescript public park. A wild guess would be that what makes it special is that he brought a wheelchair out to do it and that his knee runs no risk of bleeding since it is blatantly displayed as a prosthetic.
That said, I would like to know what it is that’s so fucking special about someone proposing only because he is disabled? Does his disability prevent him from acting out this activity in any way so that we need to feel all sappy and teary eyed? Do we need to tell the world that anyone who is not spontaneous breaking into tears is a hard hearted bastard?

I think not. As far as I know most physically disabled people are capable of doing such a thing, just like we are perfectly able to brush our teeth and go to the bathroom (funny enough, those images have still to make the rounds in the inspiration porn circus) – these things are not AN EVENT just because we are disabled. They are the very things that make us all human and disabled humans are not special only because they are disabled and all our actions are not special because we are unable to walk, hear, see or whatever else is different about us.

There is absolutely no need to plaster our daily activities all over the internet only so others can sit back and feel good about their small pathetic lives.

Then there is the question of whether the image is real. I might buy into that the guy actually wears a prosthetic, I doubt it has been photoshopped in. But I have serious doubts about the wheelchair. I think it’s a prop. As a quad friend of mine points out: “I think she’s crying because she just realized they paid 5K for a set of Emotion wheels, 400 for a backrest, 500 for a cushion and 2.5K for a chair… and he can walk. Lol” I would say if the guy is an amputee who obviously walks with crutches why would he need power assisted wheels, a custom backrest and a ROHO anti-bedsore cushion? That to me is such overkill that no insurance company would have given it to him – provided he lives in the US – and in any other civilized country he wouldn’t have been given them either. So my conclusion is that the picture is staged and therefore all the more insidious.

Besides, it is present on some of the major picture sharing sights which tells me that it was shot for commercial purposes. I will refrain from even commenting on that fact.

But whether it’s staged or not doesn’t really matter. It is a cunning and deceitful attempt at using disabled people to make others feel good and it stinks.

The other incident involves a family that is very dear to me. I have been following their blog for a while. It is written by a mother to a little boy who is born with spina bifida. A mom who continues to insist that her boy feel special because he is special and not because he is disabled. A mom who honestly writes about the ups and downs of having a disabled child that everyone else want to treat differently for all the wrong reasons. I have a particular interest in them because I see so many of the subtle things and interactions I experienced as a child with spina bifida, many of them never talked about because my parents weren’t as overtly aware.

This family had a picture stolen from a post on their blog, manipulated and commented on in a way that made them the poster family for ‘special needs families.’ All, of course, without their permission or knowledge.

Again, this is a sinister exploitation of a normal family. Yes, one of them is disabled and uses a wheelchair – and so (insert favorite expletive here) what?

He also uses glasses as does many other people but rarely are people with glasses used for this sort of inspiration porn. I wonder why. Glasses assistive devices on par with wheelchairs but for some reason wheelchairs sell better than glasses when it comes to the inspiration porn industry. And funny enough he is not wearing his glasses in the picture that was stolen so that is definitely not why they chose that particular image.

This innocent boy who is not even old enough to make a conscious decision whether he wants to be the poster child for this industry – which by the way never pays the people they exploit – he is just being used in a sinister enterprise by people he (hopefully) will never know who are abusing the fact that they scoured the internet to find his picture and used it for their own appalling purposes.

On a lighter note I got inspired by all this inspiration.

So on April fool’s day I decided to device an evil little prank on facebook. I photoshopped a picture of a brace for my crippled leg next to a prosthetic for the leg I don’t have, put it up and told people that I was working with a orthotist friend on ‘project stand up’ (needless to say, my orthotist friend, Thomas, was a little peeved that he had been scrapped for this project) I don’t remember the last time I have gotten so many likes and comments on a post, people are SOOO happy for me and support me in my efforts to stand up for the first time in more than 20 years. Now, a lot of them are just being good sports and playing along but I would not be surprised that more than half fell for it and truly believe that I am working on this project… a project that I would find utterly ridiculous and worthless. So now my conundrum is, do I tell them it was an April fool’s?

I think not.

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3 thoughts on “Inspiration porn revisited

  1. Kind of sad to have fallen for your prank and for being ridiculed about it. As you wrote in another post it isn’t possible to put ourselves in your situation without having tried it ourselves.

    My reaction to your post could obviously only be the result of my own imagination – if I lost ability to walk but got the possibility to give it a new go – I’d probably do it. Now apparently I’m being displayed as a retard for not understanding what it’s like to be you – but you yourself point out that the women who are now leading the dialysis organization don’t understand your wishes. How should I understand them then? And why should I be ridiculed for being misled about you being excited about something, something I might even would want for myself (yes, I don’t know what I’d prefer when being in your chair – but who are you to know that I didn’t wish to give walking a chance if it would be an option in my case)?

    I’m feeling sad to have been part of your social experiment. And though I’ve never acted any different to you than I’ve done to any other friend who wasn’t bound to a wheelchair – I now realize that in your world I’m just one of the herd of stupid sheep. At least I know what you hold of me now.

    1. I am afraid I don’t understand what you are getting at here. Most of what you write makes no sense to me. I would love to reply more earnestly but at this moment it seems rather impossible for me since I am not sure what you refer to when you talk about having been part of my social experiment. As far as I know I have never ridiculed anyone for wanting what they want. What I have done in several of my posts, however, is to exploit the idea that disability is bad and wrong.

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